It may be a day of the demons, but for FoG, it was a lucky one. After months of chasing the builder, I got most of the work completed and obtained the keys to the flat. Now I need to get electrical items and fix them. Though it was delayed for months, I’m glad I got it to this level.

Folks might be wondering, ‘where the hell is this newly married guy’. Well, I’m very much here, but occupied with…hm..well not with those things that I would like or what you would think.

I was running everywhere to set my home. Only when one gets out of the IT-world, they realise that even with all the hype of ‘Shining India Inc’, rest of India refuses to come up to speed. I had to travel for about 10 km to register for gas connection and it was not just a single day but three days. And when everybody knows (or at least that is the assumption), that IT guys keep moving, they ask for address proof, stability proof and this proof and that proof. By the time, I got all of that done, I was tired of my life…I told myself, boy it is too early to give up.

Then last week, we went to Coimbatore. We watched ‘Pudupettai’. My sister and BIL didn’t like the movie, but I enjoyed every bit of it. The director conceived every frame pretty well. The art, the color, the concept is all brilliant.

From Sunday, my wife is here. We were in my sister’s house on Sunday. We came to our flats on Monday. It has been good so far. I get a bed coffee in the morning. Then a good breakfast. I don’t take lunch from home. Again a good coffee when I am back home in the evening. And later a dinner. As you can see, our lives revolve around food. She is a typical Tamil girl, in that she thinks it is the duty of a wife to feed her husband and bare kids! I’ve tried to convince her that life is more than that. Let me see how far I can make her interested in other things. So far, our conversations end before it starts.

It has been a different week so far.

On 13th, I was treated to luxury. My sister sponsored a groom-package in a well known men’s parlor. I had hairdressing, massage, facial and sauna. Wow! what a treat.

In the evening we left to Coimbatore. Sunday went without much ado. We went to get some dress and I gifted sun-glasses to my sister and brother-in-law as my wedding gift. (My BIL broke his gift today)

On 15th, we were first to get to the registrar office, so everything finished pretty quickly. The party started around 18h30. Surprisingly,whole of my team had come. It was a pleasant surprise. The party was simple but nice.

What followed wasn’t that good. On Tuesday, we left to Tuticorin. I had traveled in that route for the past 15 years and never got any hiccups. This time was different. We were 12 folks. The bus broke down around 2 in the midnight. Somehow we got home.

After a day, we left back to Coimbatore. Since my wife (hm…this phrase sounds so different) had exams, we left her in her house and came back to Bangalore.

Another unpleasant event: I fell sick of throat infection, cold and fever. Since it went unbearable, I consulted a physician. It didn’t stop there. Share markets in India fell so much that I had lost a lot of money.

So a week after marriage, we are happily married – they are all happy and I stay married.

P.S: It is just a sarcastic look at the events. I am elated to be married. It is a different feeling to have someone to annoy for the rest of my life.

Oh God! I’m not able to comprehend what is happening and cannot explain how I feel. Sometimes, I feel elated and some other times, I wonder how the future is going to be. For most part of my adult life, I lived alone. Now suddenly if I’ve to share my space with someone else….pff, sometimes it is scary. Not scared for myself, but for her.

When I was leaving office, I was so overwhelmed by my feelings that I took a long walk before get into the car and drive home. I miss having someone to talk about my feelings in a honest way. Folks around me now jump immediately into judging mode that I keep everything to myself.

During the walk, I remembered the prayer that I like the most and recited it to myself.
Give me courage to change the things that I can
Give me serenity to accept the things that I can’t change
And give the wisdom to know the difference

That gave me a fresh breath of feeling.

Anyway, hope all goes well in the recent days and in the days to come.

I got a good looking smart guy in my team. He is crazy to try his hands on modeling. So he and another gal in the team came home and we took some snaps. Surprisingly they came out well. I’m glad about the whole thing. This is one of the few times, I let a guy coming home! Not only we had few good snaps, we got a good time as well.

After my return from Belgium, something good has happened. I turned around from being a reclusive guy into someone who can connect with people. As I open up, I also find out that there are people around with whom I can talk freely. They are still on the periphery, but I guess at least I’m letting people there.

Part of the credit should go to the ‘Nokia gal’ alias LA. She convinced me that there are people whom I can trust by being one. It is a pity that she is very much in Bangalore and we are not able to meet up. Since she is visiting India after a year, she is busy visiting her relatives and her in-laws.

Over the weekend, I was in Chennai to attend the marriage of my BIL’s younger brother. Man! it was roasting hot. Don’t know if I got accustomed to Bangalore climate or was it really too hot in Chennai, but it was simply unbearable. I took shower at least 3-4 times a day. You won’t believe, I woke up little after midnight sweating all over and took a shower.

As for the marriage, it went on very well. For the first time, I was watching a Hindu marriage fully with all its colors and traditions. It was truly fantastic. I also took few pictures and I’ll post them in my photoblog soon.

I don’t believe so much in fate. I subscribe to the notion of Steven Covey, that there is a circle of influence for every person and it is better to concentrate on it rather that outside that circle. However, time to time, events happen in such a way to force you to believe in fate, as it happened on Sunday.

First my BIL forgot to book a return ticket for me, along with them. He booked me a ticket in a ‘Chennai – Bangalore special’ train while they were booked in a later train. However, as fate would have it, a goods train de-railed along the route and all trains were delayed for more than 5 hours. I was sitting in my cabin while my BIL came with my sister and asked me to come out. We spread a sari on the floor and sitting around chatting and joking. That is when something I never wished would happen, happened. I saw them walking towards me. To my knowledge they are not in India. They are in the US. But I saw them walking towards me. I just didn’t know how to respond. Act as if I didn’t notice or as if they were strangers? In that short span of few seconds, I saw myself stand up and talk to them. Afterwards, my sister & BIL laughed their heart at my predicament. Soon after that, they left, leaving me alone to wonder it is all a dream or just plain fate.

Hold your thoughts! My blog is not becoming ‘R’ rated. Nor I’m ranting of my expectations. Read without prejudice.

Yesterday, I went with my team mates, a cute gal and another equally cute guy who is aspiring to be a model, to an Italian restaurant. Though she is a decade younger than me, I’m ‘innocence-personified’, compared to her! She beats me in being not-so-innocent. (LA, are you listening? )

It was somewhere middle of 6th or the 7th page of the cocktails menu, but somehow that is what I saw first, when the waiter handed over the menu. On the left side was ‘Screamy Orgasm’ and on the right side was ‘Honeymoon’! I couldn’t control my smile. They were sitting opposite of me and I handed over the menu to them, without mentioning what I saw. Guess what, she immediately noticed it and started to laugh as well. I wonder how someone will order these cocktails!

‘Sir, I’ll have a honeymoon and the lady will have a SO; by the way make it into two’

I just can’t think of such a request.

What started with laughter, continued interestingly. We talked (rather it was a non-stop non-sense from me) a lot. We ordered a Brut, a cheap imitation of Champagne. Food was okay, not so much as we expected. But the time was amazingly good. We left little after midnight.

Somehow after every good time I have, I miss KD, the best one I have known so far, with all the good things of Belgium.

Most of you know, but some of you still don’t believe – either because I chose to inform you on a fool’s day (April 1st) or it is just too good to believe.

In a month’s time, I will say, ‘I do’. Yes, I’m getting married. It is not going to be a conventional church wedding rather a registered one. We have chosen May 15th (my birthday), but the date needs to be confirmed from the register office.

She is from Coimbatore and into non-IT. Am I excited? Obviously yes.

Not even in Belgium, I was so anxious. For the fear of untoward incidents by frenzy mob, I went to the airport little past midnight. Driving in TN registration adds to the anxiety. Added to it, the flight was delayed by more than an hour. Anyway, we were home around 3 in the early morning safe and relieved.

This is not expected in an international city like Bangalore. I was bit surprised when the DGP said that no one can be prepared for a death of a person. All along, I thought police were supposed to be prepared for any eventuality. May be I’m wrong.