Keeping in touch

When we leave college or when we move jobs we always say, ‘Keep in touch’. For a period of time, communication happens religiously. But then, we all get occupied with situational urgencies and communication to ‘old friends’ takes a back seat. Then suddenly we decide, ok, let us ‘get this thing started’. Usually ‘old friends’ are happy to hear from you. But then, there is invariably a guy (or a gal) who hits back.

When Vikram, a college mate, decided to come out of hibernation, David, another college mate, shot back. When I read what David sent, I told myself, it could be true to you! But then, Vikram has not lost his humor still. I thought I’d share these two mails:

David’s response to Vikram’s initial mail:

Dai vennai….

If you do disappearing act every 6 month… do you expect us to do FBI work….We are all busy macchi.

I am happy that at least now you have decided to reappear with an announcement. Hope that you will stay the same for a longer time. If you want to know the happy news of your friends please follow the following steps.

1. Disclose where you are with location & phone number.
2. Try to meet your friends who are around you.
3. Make an international call to me and say a hello.
4. Don’t try to create a sympathy wave for you saying that we forgot you….. Mavane nee yen kayilla matuna sethada…

Here comes what Vikram has to say:

Dear all… we have always known David to be this kind of a person. We have known him from the time, He thought he could play football, to the time he thought that he could act on stage, to the time he thought he could play the drums…. But I always thought that marriage would make him a better person… But as sadly as its the truth… THE STUPID FELLOW HAS NOT CHANGEEEEEDDDDD!!!!

To drive-in theatre

Yesterday evening when I was cleaning the car, Prakash, my neighbour, threw me a question. “Joseph, have you been to Prarthana?” That is how our late-evening program got set. His family and I went to Prarthana, a near-by drive-in theatre. I’ve never been to one before and it turned into a rather pleasant experience. We went for 22h00 show. It is an open theatre, which can host around 200 cars. Just park your car and you can view from inside the car. Or as we did, spread floor mats, sit on the floor, lean on the car and enjoy the show. It is a pretty cool and cozy ambience. I absolutely enjoyed it.

Well, how about the movie? It is a new release – Arindhum Ariyamalum. Hero doesn’t look like one, heroin doesn’t look like one, and villain doesn’t look like one. And the story? It also doesn’t sound like the traditional Tamil movie story, however it keeps the audience captivating. Though, I would’ve liked any movie in such an ambience, an interesting one adds a perfect touch to the whole evening.

Recently read books

Until recently I was very much passionate about a gal who was very much passionate about her religion – Hinduism. That is when I went and bought ‘Am I a Hindu? the Hinduism Primer’ by Ed Viswanathan to get a deeper knowledge on Hinduism. Having read Ramayana (by Kambar), Mahabaratha and Arthamulla Inthumatham (Meaningful Hinduism) by Kannadasan and lived most of my life in India, I have a fairly good knowledge of Hinduism. However, I wanted to know more. This book provides a simple yet elegant way of a Father-and-Son dialogue to explore various aspects of this ancient religion. If a westerner or a non-Hindu wants to get an introduction to Hinduism, then this book will serve the purpose.

Speaking of Hinduism, I consider it as a way of life (a culture) than a religion. It teaches a way of conducting oneself at every stage of life (coming to think of it, the early books of Old Testament, collectively called as Torah, does the same). I also visited a Hindu temple and in a structural view, a temple resembles a synagogue: the worship place consists of outer courtyard, the place of worship and the most holy place. Another note worthy aspect of Hinduism is that there is no unified school of thought as found in Judeo-Christian threads. One might presume that this will spoil the essence and hinder the growth. Interestingly, no. It is this very aspect that has caused Hinduism to thrive and spread its wings everywhere. Whenever there was a threat, like Buddhism or

Oh! God it is a fun time

Just back from having snacks with the team. As I said in an earlier entry, we’ve an entertainer in our team. His comical imitation of each of the team member brings streams of laughter. It is just plain fun to be with this guy. We laughed, laughed and laughed until tears came in our eyes. I haven’t laughed like this for a long time. Pity, he is planning to leave the team soon.

Showers brings some cheers

There are two things that drive me nuts here in Chennai – traffic and weather. One is not part of traffic all day long, but the weather? Even by morning 7 it gets so hot that you feel like being with a hot woman (sorry, I meant oven) and it lasts through late evening. It has been like this for almost 3 months now. Today evening, there were some showers. Hope it will cool down the city.

Bad night

Since I returned to India until few months back, I wouldn’t sleep well. But since March, I get deep sleep and I sleep long as well. But last night was different. For some reason, I didn’t get a proper sleep. There was something disturbing me through the night. Don’t know what. Hope my day goes on well.

Strengthen your strengths and weaken your weaknesses

I strongly believe that all of us are born with certain strengths, may not be the ones that we would want to have. As a corollary, we are also born with weaknesses. It is this combination that makes all of us unique. Unfortunately, our corporate world tries to treat us as if we are all the same, like those mass-produced products that are in the market. I’ve been in few companies and I’ve not seen a firm which makes best use of their employees’ strength. Rather there are plenty of training, to shape all of us to be a part of a larger herd.

I came across a book, ‘Now, Discover Your Strengths’ by Marcus Buckingham & Donald O. Clifton. It is an interesting read. It provides 34 areas (a.k.a themes) of human strength. The book makes a strong case for focusing on our strengths and tells us how to manage around our weaknesses. Though the jargons might differ, I presume, most of us would know what we are good at. It tries to enlighten what you already know. What would’ve made this book useful is how to put those strengths into use.

There is an online questionnaire associated with this book. There are 180 questions and once it is taken, it lists one’s top 5 strengths. Listed below are mine. As I said earlier, it lists, in a nice jargon, whatever I know. Yet it is interesting to confirm from such a source. I’ve edited the results for web view.

Learner: You love to learn. The subject matter that interests you most will be determined by your other themes and experiences, but whatever the subject, you will always be drawn to the process of learning. The process, more than the content or the result, is especially exciting for you. It enables you to thrive in dynamic work environments where you are asked to take on short project assignments and are expected to learn a lot about the new subject matter in a short period of time and then move on to the next one. This Learner theme does not necessarily mean that you seek to become the subject matter expert, or that you are striving for the respect that accompanies a professional or academic credential.

Intellection: You like to think. You like exercising the “muscles” of your brain, stretching them in multiple directions. This need for mental activity may be focused; for example, you may be trying to solve a problem or develop an idea or understand another person’s feelings. On the other hand, this mental activity may very well lack focus. You are the kind of person who enjoys your time alone because it is your time for musing and reflection. You are introspective. In a sense you are your own best companion, as you pose yourself questions and try out answers on yourself to see how they sound. This introspection may lead you to a slight sense of discontent as you compare what you are actually doing with all the thoughts and ideas that your mind conceives. Or this introspection may tend toward more pragmatic matters such as the events of the day or a conversation that you plan to have later. Wherever it leads you, this mental hum is one of the constants of your life.

Maximizer: Excellence, not average, is your measure. Transforming something strong into something superb takes just as much effort but is much more thrilling. Strengths, whether yours or someone else’s, fascinate you. Like a diver after pearls, you search them out, watching for the telltale signs of a strength. Having found a strength, you feel compelled to nurture it, refine it, and stretch it toward excellence. You polish the pearl until it shines. You choose to spend time with people who appreciate your particular strengths. Likewise, you are attracted to others who seem to have found and cultivated their own strengths. You tend to avoid those who want to fix you and make you well rounded. Rather, you want to capitalize on the gifts with which you are blessed. It’s more fun. It’s more productive. And, counter intuitively, it is more demanding.

Input: You are inquisitive. You collect things. You might collect information-words, facts, books, and quotations-or you might collect tangible objects such as butterflies, baseball cards, porcelain dolls, or sepia photographs. Whatever you collect, you collect it because it interests you. And yours is the kind of mind that finds so many things interesting. The world is exciting precisely because of its infinite variety and complexity. If you read a great deal, it is not necessarily to refine your theories but, rather, to add more information to your archives. If you like to travel, it is because each new location offers novel artifacts and facts.

Arranger: When faced with a complex situation involving many factors, you enjoy managing all of the variables, aligning and realigning them until you are sure you have arranged them in the most productive configuration possible. Others will ask. “How can you stay so flexible, so willing to shelve well-laid plans in favor of some brand-new configuration that has just occurred to you?” You are a shining example of effective flexibility, whether you are changing travel schedules at the last minute because a better fare has popped up or mulling over just the right combination of people and resources to accomplish a new project. Of course, you are at your best in dynamic situations. Confronted with the unexpected, some complain that plans devised with such care cannot be changed, while others take refuge in the existing rules or procedures. You don’t do either. Instead, you jump into the confusion, devising new options, hunting for new paths of least resistance, and figuring out new partnerships-because, after all, there might just be a better way.

On SMS..

With friend’s circle enlarging, I get quite good amount of SMS now-a-days. Most of them are cute and sweet and bring a smile. There are morning wishes, sweet dreams wishes and some of them are plain jokes and few are naughty. Sample of these messages are below:

  • Here is freshly brewed coffee especially made 4 u. Sorry there is no sugar, but the sender is sweet. Good morning.
  • Close ur eyes. Save all the sweet memories in ur heart. Think of all the beautiful things in ur life.. & surrender urself to sweet dreams. Good night
  • Take a basket of roses and make a garland. Now, take the garland in your hands & look at the mirror. What will you see? “Korangu kayila poo maala”….
    (loosely translated into English: garland in the hands of a monkey)
  • Look at the world around u, u see god’s creativity…Look at me, u see god’s master piece.. Look at the mirror, u see god’s sense of humor!!!
  • Boy stares at a girl T-shirt which had an aero plane drawn. Girl: Have u never seen a aero plane? Boy: I hv seen aero plane, but I’ve never seen such an airport.